By The eternal question every human being will face at some point of his or her life. Sadly enough by the time we figure out who we are we either, have messed up most of our lives and live with regret, and learn from mistakes or if we are fortunate, we are happy.
The bigger question is how do we all become happy and content in our lives. Actually, the answer is not really fair, because we are the products of our parents and care takers and we become the product of their thoughts and lifestyle choices.
From birth on we are being taught and shaped by others, and not having a choice in this matter. We grow up, follow patterns, try life out of our own and at some point find out who we are, how imperfect we are, how screwed up, and how messed up we have become. We find out we are selfish, narcissists, co-dependent, too giving, and that we haven’t always made the best choices in life. That is, except for a handful of us that have had the privilege of having aware parents, who took their job seriously into creating independent, loving and successful human beings. But often as parents, we think we are doing the best for our child and we don’t even realize the harm we do when we think we love them. So it really is a catch 22. Even in the most “perfect” households there is a flaw, and someone will suffer from it and will have to learn from it and hopefully break free from this.
I believe this is called a curse.
When God said that our punishment would be that our mistakes would carry over through generations, I believe this is what He was talking about.
So be kind to yourself and forgive yourself for your mistakes and imperfections. You are a product and an heir of someone else’s mistakes and curse, and the ways that you have been taught to be and act are a direct consequence of that.
Once we have accepted this, we can move on to cutting ourselves from this inheritance and be whhttps://wordpress.com/post/loveyourself-first.com/76o we want to be, and I hope you would want to be the kind, loving and accepting soul living in peace with one another. Free from pain, free from guilt and free from anger. Because these negative emotions are holding back every progress into being happy. Being truly happy.
Have you ever asked yourself what it is what you want?
I haven’t. And I don’t think someone has ever asked me. So when I start thinking about what I want, I pause, and I think of the things that I thought I wanted vs what I really want.
Most of the times, we react and act based on instinct or as a trained response from our teachers (parents/peers/role models). We think we want something because they have made us believe that those things are important and what is going to make us happy in life.
But eventually, we grow up, and we come to our own, and we wake up after asking ourselves this question: What am I missing? Why am I not happy? Where did I go wrong? Why am I in a life that does not fulfill me? The so-called midlife crisis.
I think that our life is automated for the first 30 years, and after we hit full maturity we finally get off this train and think of what it is that we truly want. This is when we can cut ourselves from our curse, our inheritance, our parents’ way, and how to become who it is we truly want to be.
I believe that this is how we slowly evolve as a generation, how we grow to be better and how we can become more connected.
I think that in the end we are all a little lost, and I would like to think that sharing each others stories, pains and growth are inspirations for us to keep growing and working towards our happiness. So let us connect and evolve together into a bigger consciousness where we are supportive of each other. I believe in God, and I think this is what He would want us to do. To unite in love. To unite in Him, because ultimately we know God is Love.
So leave your judgments, and open yourself up to forgiving, first yourself and then everyone else. We are all in this battle of life, trying to be happy and love will get us there faster.
Love Yourself 